Success is About Learning to Deal with Failures

by smartamarketing

Brian Monger

Dealing with Failure

What makes the difference between ordinary and extraordinary, between average and excellent, mediocre and superb?

The line that separates those who achieve from those who don’t is different perceptions and responses to what many people consider failure.  Nothing else has such a dramatic impact on people’s ability to achieve and to accomplish their goals.

There are thousands of ways to become a winner.

Apart from luck though, each way that may bring you to success will be paved with failures.

When a situation or a circumstance happens and it doesn’t appear favourably for me at that moment, learn to detach and pull back, instead of over-reacting to the circumstances. By detaching, try stepping back and accepting that there are many situations you cannot change but you can definitely change how you view them, especially related to what most people perceive to be failure.

Did you fail?   Have you really? Did you really fail?” What did you gain, who did you meet, how did it develop character, what happened because of the situation?

As every door that closes, another – (perhaps even a window)

The reason the failure rate is so high in free enterprise is that we as a society are not prepared and not mentally conditioned to deal with the inevitable emotional roller coaster of entrepreneurship. We are taught through education, training, college, other schooling and on the job training to become good employees. We end up learning job skills, not the free-thinking skills that lead to success as an entrepreneur. Most of all we are not taught how to look at our mistakes and failures properly.

We need skills such as developing a belief, understanding how to market ourselves, how to be consistent, how to be self-motivated over time to create what is called “Internal compounding”

Internal compounding really begins with you becoming comfortable with yourself, becoming the person you deserve to be, really having a belief in yourself, a sense of certainty that no matter what obstacles, what challenges, what hurdles arrive in your way, you begin to turn these roadblocks into building blocks.

Do not compare yourself to others. You never know the price someone has paid to get to their promised land, and they did pay it at one time or another. Even the statement, “paying the price” is unusual.  Most importantly, it is imperative that you start to view your past failures differently and change how you view challenges and obstacles that face you today and in the future.

People quit too soon. They give up before barely getting started and go back to what already wasn’t working for them, giving up on their dreams. If you don’t have dreams, you end up working for people who do.

That isn’t to say, that you should not know when to move on to something else on your path to success.

Success isn’t always easy, is it?  It’s not a sprint, it’s a marathon. Most people quit in free enterprise in their first 90 days, six months or one year. This is a usual pattern; they don’t stay in the game long enough to learn the survival skills required to win the game of their life. They dabble, they give it a shot, they try, they wish, they hope, they’d like to, they think about it, they take little action, get their feelings hurt, test the water and, most of all, treat it like a hobby, then it costs them enough money, so they quit.

Success is about going through mind shifts, evolutions of new consciousness, getting out of the box, off the side-lines and into the game.  It is the opportunity to win the game of life on your terms, in your time frame. Quitters never win and winners never quit. Winners learn how to fail more intelligently. Isn’t it time you learned how to treat failure differently? Isn’t it time you changed how you’ve been changing?