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To tweet, or not to tweet, that is the question

The Great Social Tweet

By Brian Swinden
To tweet, or not to tweet, that is the question:
Whether ’tis nobler in the ‘Net to send out
The slings and arrows for outrageous fortune,
Or to make posts of cats against a sheet of bubbles
And by clawing pop them: to ‘Like’, to tweet
No more; and by a tweet, to say we brave
A heart-ache, and the thousand Natural shocks
That Flesh is heir to? ‘Tis a communication
Devoutly to be wished. To ‘Like’, to tweet,
To tweet, perchance to stream; Aye, there’s the rub,
For in that tweet of mirth, what trials may come,
When we have shuffled off this wi-fi band,
Should give us pause. There’s the respect
That makes Calamity of paltry life:
For who would share the whips and scorns of time,
The Oppressor’s wrong, the proud man’s Contumely,
The pangs of despised Love, the Law’s delay,
The insolence of Office, and the Spurns
That patient merit of the unworthy takes,
When he himself might his Quietus make
With a YouTube vid? Who would followers bear,
To drink and whine of thumb-typed weary posts,
But that the dread of something after login,
The undiscovered country, from whose bourn
No traveller returns, puzzles the will,
And makes us rather share those ills we have,
And fly to others that we know not of.
Thus dissociation does make experts of us all,
And thus the native hue of communication
Is sicklied o’er, with the vivid lack of thought,
And enterprises of great pith and moment,
With this regard their intentions turn awry,
And lose the name of Action. Soft you now,
The fair Tweeter? Not in your mobile be
All my sins remembered.

 

 

Brian Swinden is the Owner of Brian Swinden Productions Winnipeg, Canada

Marketing and Advertising

George Orwell’s writing rules Good thoughts for Social Media

George Orwell suggested 5 golden rules for effective writing:

1. Never use a metaphor, simile, or other figure of speech which you are used to seeing in print.

Does the phrase “Low hanging fruit” mean something to a layman? Can’t it be better written as “non-performing employee”?Now, how many people recognize the words and the sentiments behind them?

2. Never use a long word where a short one will do.

In the entire world, XYZ is selling like hot cakes and gathering a lot of revenues for the company”… Imagine if we write this as “XYZ is the company’s universal best-seller”. Many writers adopt the beating round the bush approach to increase word count or achieve the desired keyword density. This is a strict no-no as it insults the reader’s sensibilities.

3. If it is possible to cut a word out, always cut it out.

Well, same as above (yea that’ a shorter one. No need for another example!)

4. Never use the passive where you can use the active.

“The man who was old was bitten by a cat”. While there’s no rocket science behind the logic, still this is an oft-disregarded adage. You can always replace the longer sentence with a shorter and effective “The cat bit the old man”

5. Never use a foreign phrase, a scientific word, or a jargon word if you can think of an everyday English equivalent.

Keep your content easily accessible to the average Joe. Readers will simply block out the content if they come across a lot of technical jargons that they can’t comprehend

 

How Do You Foster Creativity?

By John Harrington

As a Creative Director for 20+ years, I’ve learned some tricks that help amplify creativity in any department of a company.
1. Create an environment of praise instead of fear. Nothing dries up creativity faster than rampant negativity and fear of making a mistake.
2. Don’t give people a million rules, give them a few absolute ones then let them have
free rein on everything else.
3. Don’t take the credit, give the credit.
4. Praise the behavior you want loudly and often.
5. Be fair, but don’t tolerate non-performers. Keeping around dead weight demoralizes the people who are trying really hard.
6. Don’t compete with your underlings. If you’re always trying to one up your staff, they
will quit trying eventually. If they don’t solve the problem exactly the way you would have,
GREAT!!!
7. Give people a clear, simple, lofty vision of where you want to go. BE VERY CONSISTENT TO SUPPORT THAT VISION.
8. Don’t worry so much about watching the clock on employees. If they accomplish the goals you want, let them figure out creative ways and times to make it happen.
9. Try in inject some aspect of fun into everything you do right down to the office space.
Just look at the offices, benefits and the results that Google has.

Do all that and you’ll have the best and the brightest lining up to work on your team.

 

John Harrington   is President at Blackbox Advertising and Owner, Blackbox Advertising

Kansas City, Missouri

Build Your Personal Brand

Dr. Brian Monger

Branding is not just for products. ‘Personal brand’ has become an increasingly common phrase. Just as traditional product branding helps organisations to draw market awareness, public recognition and customer loyalty to them, building your own personal brand can have a positive effect on employers’ and clients’s attitude to you as a professional. Let’s take a look at how to build your brand

Your personal brand needs to show in everything you do and are involved in.  It’s about your value (offer) to others.

Your personal brand represents what you mean to others.  How they feel about you and how they value you

Focus on who (your target market/audience) you want to connect with and impress.

You don’t need to impress everyone (you never will BTW) You want to impress and be meaningful to who matters to you.  You need to understand your audience/target market(s) in-depth, so you know what will make a positive impression.

Your brand should reflect authenticity and the value that you have.

Focus on what you can deliver; what you want to deliver.  Do not try to be what you cannot be or what will be too hard for you to deliver.

In your personal brand, highlight what value you believe is needed in the market and that is pertinent to you.

Use your brand to demonstrate to clients and employers what benefits and value (that’s what people want and buy)  you’d be adding for them (first) to their organisation (second if they choose to go with you.  Be clear in your understanding of the market and their need for people like you and for what it is you can do for them.

Differentiate your personal brand from other offerings

From a long-term (strategic) point of view, personal brand effectiveness will only work if your audience/target market(s) can differentiate you from the competition.  If they cannot differentiate you from everyone else in the same market you become just like any commodity.  You will not be noticed or appreciated.  You can compete only as a low price commodity.  So don’t use the standard terms everyone else is using about themselves.  Here again it is vital to really know and understand your market/audience.  And if you are being truly authentic as well you will of course be different.

Consider the right medium/media for conveying your brand message.

The digital world is prominent these days, but it is certainly not the only, or even necessarily the best medium for your message.  First you need to know what media your audience/target market(s), use and fight credible.  And do not forget face to face is often the best media.

Think as professionally as you can to develop your personal brand and your brand message 

Your personal brand is about presenting yourself in an effective and professional way, so act like one.

Dr. Brian Monger is a marketing specialist with over 4o years experience.  He is a recognised expert on branding and social media.  He can advise and assist in developing effective personal branding. His professional profile and recommendations can be found on Linked In (Dr. Brian).  Contact him via info @marketing.org.au.

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Improving Your Memory

Dr Brian Monger

All of us would like to increase our mental brain power. The following memory techniques will help you do it.

The brain wasn’t designed to remember abstract symbols like numbers and miscellaneous facts. However, if you can translate those symbols into vivid visual images and associations, even the dullest list of dates can become as memorable as your own telephone number. The key is to develop a system that allows for quick encoding and easy recall.

We’ll start with the basic techniques and then move on to the more advanced ones. Although the more advanced techniques do take a bit more practice, they also deliver bigger benefits, so don’t write them off too quickly. With practice, you can become a memory master.

1. Acronyms

One of the most common memory techniques is the use of acronyms. This technique uses an easily remembered word whose first letters are associated with the list of items that need to be remembered. Pilots use these extensively to run through essential checklists during flight time.

An example would be:

ROY G. BIV: the colors of the visible spectrum Red, Orange, Yellow, Green, Blue, Indigo, Violet

Keep in mind that associations which are exaggerated, absurd, humorous, and involve all five senses are much easier to remember than normal ones. We remember emotionally charged events much better than boring ones.

2. Chunking

Chunking is one of the oldest memory techniques. Using this method, the items to be memorized are divided into small chunks or groups. Chunking is especially helpful for memorizing telephone numbers, ID numbers, etc.

For example, if you want to memorize the number 411645754, then split it up into small groups: 411, 645, 754. You can then memorize each group by rote. By dividing the larger number into smaller subsets, it will be much easier to commit the number to memory.

When using this technique, it is also helpful to make connections and associations among the different chunks and numbers.

For example, if you want to memorize a grocery list, you should group each of the items into related categories. So, one chunk or group might be composed of oranges, apples, and pears, while another chunk is made up of vegetables.

3. Acrostic

An acrostic is a memory technique that uses a made up sentence or poem with a first letter cue. The first letter of each word is a cue to an idea you need to remember.

One example is:

Please Excuse My Dear Aunt Sally (PEMDAS).

This acrostic represents the sequence in solving or evaluating math equations. Parenthesis, Exponents, Multiplication, Division, Addition, Subtraction

4. The Method of Loci

The Method of Loci is a memory technique that dates back to ancient Greek times when orators, philosophers, and others had to rely on memory for memorizing speeches and knowledge in general. This was essential seeing that the printed book wouldn’t come around until approximately two thousand years later.

Therefore, they invented the Method of Loci. This memory technique involves associating information you want to remember with specific locations, also known as loci.

These locations can be points along a journey or objects in a room. The ancient Greeks not only created rooms, but entire palaces and cities to remember lots of information.

According to Wikipedia,

“In ancient advice, the loci were physical locations, usually in a familiar large public building, such as a market or a church.

To utilize the method, one walked through the building several times, viewing distinct places within it, in the same order each time. After a few repetitions of this, one should be able to remember and visualize each of the places in order reliably.

To memorize a speech, one breaks it up into pieces, each of which is symbolized by vivid imagined objects or symbols. In the mind’s eye, one then places each of these images into the loci.

They can then be recalled in order by imagining that one is walking through the building again, visiting each of the loci in order, and viewing each of the images that were placed in the loci, thereby recalling each piece of the speech in order.”

To create your own mental journey, you must first select the path you wish to use. Be sure to choose a location that has the same number of locations as the number of chunks in the information you wish to memorize.

Take a mental journey through the selected path. You should be able to recall the specific order of the locations without trouble.

Now it’s time to associate this new information with each location along your chosen path. If you want to memorize the presidents, then you might take a mental journey through your school. In the first room, you could have George Washington in an astronaut suit and cutting firewood. In the second room you could have John Adams break dancing in front of the classroom. And on and on until you have completed all 43 presidents.

Remember, emotion and exaggerated associations are the key to memory.

5. The Image-Name Technique

Here’s an excellent (but simple) memory technique for remembering names.

All you have to do is make up a relationship between the name and the physical characteristics of the person’s name you are trying to remember.

For example, if you were trying to remember a person by the name of Tom, you might associate their name with the person you went to prom with who was also named Tom. In this instance, you are making the connection between Tom and prom (rhyming) and between someone you previously knew from high school.

If you want to remember the name Sally, you might imagine them in a ballet. This association will help you remember their name because of the visual imagery and the connection between the “closely related” words that almost rhyme: Sally and ballet.

By making connections, you are instantly more likely to remember their name the next time you see them.

6. Mind Mapping

One of the best ways to learn new things is to relate what you want to learn with something you already know. This is known as association and it is the mental glue that drives your brain.

Associations are also one of the best ways to improve your memory. To maximize our mental powers, we must constantly look for associations that connect new ideas and knowledge with old ideas and concepts that we are already familiar with.

Association is the primary method that memory champions use to win international memory competitions. If you want to enhance your mental abilities, then association is one skill that you will definitely want to practice.

Mind mapping is one of the best ways to practice association.

According to Wikipedia, mind mapping:

“is a diagram used to represent words, ideas, tasks or other items linked to and arranged radially around a central key word or idea.”

Mind maps have been used for centuries to aid in learning, brainstorming, memory, and problem solving.

To start creating your own mind map, simply get out a piece of paper, multiple colored pens, and begin drawing a handwritten mind map that connects a variety of ideas and concepts to a central key word or idea. The simple act of using your hand for thought can really get the brain going.

7. Write an Article

One of the best ways to learn a topic is to start writing about it yourself. This forces you to clarify your thoughts and dig a bit deeper into the topic at hand.

By expressing the core ideas in your own words, you will gain a much deeper understanding of the topic.

Explaining a topic to others will help you to “really” understand the matter because teaching something to others requires a completely different level of insight.

Think about it. If you had to teach a class, wouldn’t you make sure that you understood the material even better than the students. Take on the role of an instructor and you will find yourself gaining a much deeper understanding of the topics you study.

8. Peg words

Peg words are extremely powerful, but it does take some time to learn how to use them. However, once you master this technique, you can probably cut your studying time in half.

The use of pegs goes all the way back to the seventeenth century and Henry Herson. He came up with a list of ten objects that physically resembled the number itself. For example, the number 1 was represented by a candle. Number 8 was a pair of spectacles.

Peg words essentially become “hangers” or pegs on which you can hang different items that you want to remember.

This system works by pre-memorizing a list of words that are easy to associate with the numbers they represent. To begin, you can connect simple objects with the numbers 1-20. Those objects form the “pegs” of the system.

Once you have created a list of words for each number, you can then begin using your peglist to quickly memorize a list of objects.

For example, let’s say you want to memorize a grocery list of 10 items. To begin, you would need to make a peg list for the numbers 1-10. Here’s an example:

1- pencil 2- shoe 3- phone 4- door 5- book 6- basketball 7- hat 8- radio 9- car 10- barn

Now, you must associate the groceries on your list with each of your peg words. Remember that your associations must be exaggerated and filled with emotion in order to make them easy to remember. Here are some examples of how you could associate the grocery list with each of the peg words:

1- tomatoes – Visualize an army of pencils attacking a field of overgrown tomatoes. 2- grapes – Visualize your favorite TV character stomping through a big barrel of grapes with bright white shoes. 3 – cereal – Visualize opening your phone and having your favorite cereal start shooting out of the mouth piece.

Get the idea?

Once you have created your list of peg words, you can use them over and over again to memorize a variety of different lists.

You could use the peg system to memorize the Presidents of the United States, the periodic table, or the state capitals.

When creating your peg words, it’s best to use tangible things or objects for each peg word because objects are easier to associate other items to.

Also, make sure that you don’t use similar peg words for different numbers. For reference, always keep a full list of the peg words close by. In fact, putting this list in your wallet or purse is one of the best places. This way, you will always have access to the peg system.

At first, you may find it difficult to come up with the creative, illogical, and exaggerated associations that help you remember more. It comes with practice. However, once you have mastered the technique of association, you will find that you have also increased your creativity and problem solving skills at the same time. The key to creating good associations is thinking like a child again. Let your mind wander past the limitations created out of what we now know as “adulthood”.

9. Visualization

Visualization is an extremely powerful memory technique. However, visualization doesn’t just improve memory. It can also help reduce stress, improve sports performance, and increase your motivation.

Create descriptive pictures of your possible future and move yourself towards it. Visualize your next sports event or public speech to improve your performance.

When studying history, play out visual renditions in your mind of historical events that you want to remember. Imagine the smells, sights, and sounds of Gettysburg or the excitement and unity created by Martin Luther King’s famous “I Have a Dream” speech. By visualizing history with mental replays, you are much more likely to remember them in detail.

10. FlashCards

When it comes to rote memorization, flash cards are my favorite memorization tool. Flashcards can help you learn new subjects quickly and efficiently. They are especially useful for learning new vocabulary or even a new language.

One of the biggest benefits of flashcards is their portable nature. They allow you to study anywhere at any time. It doesn’t matter whether you’re on the bus, stuck in traffic, or in the doctor’s office. You can always whip out your flashcards for a quick 2 to 3 minute study session.

To create effective flashcards, dedicate one point to each card. For example, you could put a vocabulary word on one side and the definition on the other side. This way, you can repeatedly quiz yourself until you have mastered all of the concepts.

Considering that memory is such a fundamental skill, it’s surprising that schools don’t teach us more about how to learn and use our memory to its optimum potential.

Our mind, just like the rest of our body, needs continuous exercise and training. Those who think they have a poor memory actually just have an untrained memory.

Just reading this article won’t improve your memory. A good memory comes from practice. Find something new and exciting to learn. Start testing out these methods as soon as possible.

You could learn how to fly, learn a new language, photography, or even investing.

When you have mastered these memory techniques, the world’s knowledge is yours to discover.

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Building Trust and Teamwork

Dr Brian Monger

Trust is a big issue in today’s business world. It is difficult to have effective working relationships without trust. Therefore, trust is critical for every organisation.

Successful teamwork involves building trust among team members and associates.

One of the main keys to the survival of a business is trust. Trust is a critical issue in any type of relationship because a relationship without trust is not really a relationship at all. One of the problems that managers encounter when dealing with teams is that trust is not automatic and may never develop at all. Even with the appropriate individuals on a team, a team that does not build a trusting relationship is not an effective team.

Trust is necessary for the following reasons:

  • Feeling able to rely upon others;
  • Communicating openly;
  • Effectively co-operating as a group;
  • Being able to take personal risks in making information available and putting forward ideas;

Organisations Needs Teamwork to Survive

You have probably heard the statement that there is “no ‘I’ in the word ‘Team’.” This is a good though and reasonably true (although we need to remember that people do not lose their individuality while working with others – and nor should they).  In reality high level collaboration is rare.  So called teams are usually populated with folk who know that the only people they trust are themselves.  I becomes number 1.

Face it, in the vast majority of firms individual success is rewarded better than team participation. Organisations need to be able to develop policies, methods and tools for individuals to want to grow and develop within teams.

Some suggestions

  • Only form teams to solve real problems when a team is the best answer.

Don’t automatically involve everyone from the sake of it.  Others not in a team who need to know about it can be simply just kept in the loop and have their suggestions taken without having to populate the team

  • The manager should provide people who will be in teams with teamwork training beforehand on systematic methods of team work. The team should focus on accomplishing the project, as well as how to work together as a team.
  • Review projects in progress

It is a manager’s responsibility to recognise when a group is not working and not developing healthy working relationships.

  • Make the effort to build fun and the time to share experiences into the teams agenda

Folk should like being on a team.  It is more than a waste of time and a chore

  • Celebrate group successes

Recognise the group as a whole for their accomplishments.

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Is Bullying Ever Justified?

Is bullying ever justified? What do you think? Have a say and say why.

From a Discussion on Monash Uni Alumni LinkedIn group Started by Brian Monger – Early 2012

  1. Christine Fares • No… Bullying is always attached to an excuse or a number of excuses (i.e low productivity, wrong doing, etc.) made by the bully.. The bullied victim is convinced they made a mistake of some sort.. the bully normally suppresses the the bullied person and treat them inappropriately… What both parties do not understand is the fact that no one should be treated inappropriately regardless of their productivity level or behavior.. Bulling is not justifiable!
  2. Dr. Brian Monger • Bullying – Use superior strength or influence to intimidate (someone), typically to force him or her to do what one wants
  3. Fu Chen • Just to offer a different opinion. Bullies might be just another form of animal nature.In the animal kindom, individuals have to fight with each other for the power of control within the group. It is always the bigger , stronger ones to lead, while weaker ones have to suffer. Nowadays, animal nature of human being is supressed by moral and law. However, it is easy to go backward as it might be the most easy way to settel conflicts. Different levels of bullies can be found in workplace. Even well educated people would use their strengthness to bend others’ will. This could be achieved through physical or mental means. For example, getting a stronger body might help to achieve a better deal in business. Or using mean words could motivate others to follow instruction. If think further, using wealth to control people’s behaviour can be seen as an advanced form of bully as well. In this case, the difference is its easiness to accept by the victim.
  4. Anna Lyubomirsky • Hi Brian, bullying is a type of corporate harassment and can be expressed in a form of excessive over management, unfair critique of work, constant humiliation, intimidation and public downgrading of your skills and abilities, often causing loss of confidence, self esteem. It has psychological impact and as we are not in an animal world it can have adverse effects on productivity and personal development. It can never be justified and often those who demonstrate this behavior have been the victims of bullying bit perhaps never recovered due to not seeking help or counceling,
  5. Dr. Brian Monger • While understnading that bullying can be bad (everyone knows that). Can it not be used in a good way? For example against a bully – to stop them? Reasoning and being nice may not work in some cases
  6. Fu Chen  Bully is a negative term. It is hard to change the perception of people that it could be used in good ways.
  7. Maybe a better way to address this would be settling conflicts or how to make people follow?
  8. Anna Lyubomirsky • I too think that being nice towards bullies as a way to make them understand is not a strong or effective way of counteracting bullying behaviour. After all many of them are psychologically effected. One has to have almost equiavalent direction of address towardss bullies but remain calm and reasonable in their arguments or case presentation – bullies are emotional and insecure so its important to target those areas when resisting and battling bullying. There must be a good degree of understanding of why and what the behavious is all about in order to develop the return strategies.
  9. Shama Kazmi • It really depends on the degree of bullying behaviour we are talking about. In my opinion, bullying in the typical understanding of the word is unacceptable. It destroys human relations, breaks the spirit and rarely does it benefit either party – the person bullying or the recipient.
  10. There are shades of grey in this issue though. Kids bullying their parents into getting them a favourite toy? Teenage girls bullying their mums to let them do things that will help them ‘fit in’ with their friends – getting a piercing, going out late at night, getting their hair dyed? An elderly boss bullying his junior staff into meeting particular performance targets… the bullying behaviour manifesting in a carrot-and-stick approach.
  11. Much turns on the context. I think it is important to define the sort of bullying we are talking about here…
  12. Dr. Brian Monger • Shama – how about countries trying to bully say Iran to stop their nuc. program?
    Everything turns on situation and context I find.
  13. Anna Lyubomirsky • Political and economic bullying has always existed. Countries have done this throughout the history of mankind targetting weaker regions and attacking and conquering for gain and political power, often for oil, gas etcIts how we deal with everyday bullying at work, socially, organisations and schools. I thinks as discussed in other groups there are now platforms such as HR and other support services that would provide assistance and guidance in dealing with the bullying behaviour. The outcome however can be positive in terms of what the bully gets as a result of actions taken but at what cost does this occur? I agree that context and situation are important in the evaluation of behavious and actions needed to address them. Some may charge into a fist fight, direct conflict and some may take up a more strategic approach.
  14. Karen Price • Bullying- Who does it? Just read an interesting article by Prof Gordon Parker on Personality Disorders and how most often they are very unamenable to treatment or insight led actions. There is a qualitative difference in personality “style” vs “disorder”.
    Anyway just going along with rarely being able to reason with an INTENTIONAL bully. Some may well have very difficult personalities that have been actioned upon by both nature AND nurture to produce the sort of person we know to cuase mayhem in our families or workplaces. These people are not able to be contextural so will exhibit dysfucntional behaviours across most situations. Those with just a personality “style” however who are less effected may be able to modify responses in the right context. Prof Gordon Parker remains puzzled by his inability to pick the sociopath who of course can be charming and who exists throughout the business world. He remains challenged by this. I have been less academic than the esteemed prof of Psychiatry and used the term “wolf in sheeps clothing” a more visual metaphor for my patients. They like myself and Gordon Parker bemoan our inability to pick this wold out of the docile and lovely sheep we might meet. I now console myself with the knowledge that these wolves are indeed cunning and charming on initial greet and meet, but the seductive vortex is quickly deduced by a lack of boundaries an over familiarity and then feeling like you are in a twilight zone or feeling like you are being “recruited.”
    Sorry for such a long winded medical perspective but I am not sure there is anyway to handle a bully other than zero tolerance and strict and swift structural policy practices. Early and willing identification by an organisation or group very important.
    And the definition of a bully other than the persuasive things we all do to get other people to do our bidding. I think it comes down to Annas reply where the receiver of the bullying action is made to feel in some way demeaned, humiliated, excluded shamed, and belittled.
    I never felt that way when my kids coerced me into a toy or a treat. I just felt either tired or a pussycat parent or like a big and willing softie!!!
  15. Karen Price • So NO bullying is never justified at an individual level.
    Is Iran a threatening bullying nation?? What are the possible range of responses given the low likelihood of a diplomatic solution? Are sanctions part of the larger world view of structural policy and procedures enacted swiftly by a zero tolerance world. Assuming that the world is MOSTLY zero tolerant of the use of nuclear weaponry?
    How to live in a peaceful world ????? Anyone???? 😀
  16. Shama Kazmi • How to live in a peaceful world – a topic that probably warrants a thread of its own!
    These are my ideas for achieving peace in this world, just speaking generally:
    1. Recognise that you/ your organisation/ your nation has inherent shortcomings/ weaknesses.
    2. Be aware that you also have your strengths…
    3. Work on maximising your strengths and be realistic about your shortcomings. Be aware, be sentient, be sensitive…
    4. Cooperate, forgive, analyse, evaluate and reevaluate, review and work on realistic, practical goals.
    5. Communicate. Reflect – remember that the greatest voyage in life is the journey within.
    6. Use your strengths in a positive way. Help others to achieve their goals, save lives, benefit communities, go out of your way for the underprivileged, encourage science and the arts, teach children to read and maximise their opportunities.
    Use your weaknesses in a positive way. Learn from them, change your set perspectives which have led to stagnation and lack of progress/ growth. Grow, develop and move forward!
    Of course the above ideas are more of a sort of noble aspiration than something that can always be applied in the real world. Realpolitick and economic constraints mean that people will always be influenced to act as per the needs of their goals/ organisations. I do wish for a world where there could be peace and happiness though! And the place to start would be to look within ourselves! Sorry if I’ve wandered too far off the topic.
  17. Karen Price • Love it Sharmi!
    That is a worthy and beautiful vision and I think a lot of people fortunately aspire to it.
    BUT
    I am singing ” to dream the impossible dream” (and I do love that song)
    Is it mans nature to be aggressive in collecting tokens for his nest to attract a mate.
    Also known as capitalistic greed?????
    (Really tilting at the windmills now!!)
  18. Anna Lyubomirsky • Karen – you are so right!!! I loved the comments. The Peaceful world is
    Utopia and I do not believe we will ever see this sort of a world – sorry I
    am a sceptic! Was it George Orwell who tried to demonstrate Utopia but at
    what cost – loss of freedom, freedom of speech etc. Communism propagated by
    Lenin during the Russian revolution using Marx’s model was Utopia/ideal
    socio-economic world but if Karl Marx knew what was happening he would
    have climbed out of his coffin!!!
    I love your definition of a bully “ personality style” LOL!! There is a
    clear emergence of psychopaths in the professional world (and may be social
    one as well but we have more choice who we hang around with outside work
    hours), it’s a style of my way or highway – I was recently told that I was
    arguing with my boss but I was simply in my opinion presenting my point of
    view of why things happened the way they did. She kept saying I was arguing
    and did not understand… I said that I want to be understood too and that I
    had the right to express my point of view which happened to be contrary to
    hers. I do not consider this bullying but she has the tendencies and traits
    of that nature. It’s a definite disorder that is widespread like an
    epidemic and we need medical urgent measures -Karen?? LOL!
  19. Dr. Brian Monger • So – Scenario 1:
    Bunch of people being bullied by couple of thugs – say at a high school.
    Teachers don’t notice and it continues. Should Handsome Harry step forward and tell the thugs to knock it off – OR ELSE?
    Scenario 2: LOL (Little old lady) being pressured and threatened. Should Tradie Tarzan next door intervene and threaten to thump the pressurer unless he decamps immediately?
  20. Anna Lyubomirsky • I would love to say yes to both scenarios and perhaps its an option that should be used in conjunction with direct approach to the authorities and address the school etc.
    Karen Price • anna You are quick
    Yes
    and
    yes
    in an ideal world
    but that would be because they recognise bullying for waht it is and have a sense of social responisbility because they were brought up by parents who had some kind of social conscience and gave their child the ability to think outside of the group. That is be an individual. When they disciplined their child or Harry or the tradie they did it in a respectuful sense where juniors behaviour was the problem and then they modelled themselves non bullying means of interacting with the world. Sometimes I think Bullying would be a lot less if SOME FATHERS did not resort to military style of parenting , left over from our war culture I think. Ie Do it OR ELSE BLAH!!!Add a comment…
  21. Dr. Brian Monger • I am a fan of more social intervention in public places. Yes I know you could get hurt – but if it was the expected response (on trains for example) that photos were taken, calls made and as required actual intervention, then there would be less problems.
    Thugs etc do it because they think/know they can get away with it.
    German trains (at least at one time) were clean because if you dropped rubbish, several people would bully you into picking it up.
    I have really hated bullies all my life and just about always intervened. I am getting too old to do this now but… well I guess I am going to get hurt.
  22. Dr. Brian Monger • The helping others and intervening was a result of what my soldier father taught me was the right thing to do.
  23. Karen Price • If the link doesnt work, look up todays The Conversation a Melb uni publication I think
    http://theconversation.edu.au/shining-a-new-light-on-bullying-risk-6653?utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=Latest+from+The+Conversation+for+7+May+2012&utm_content=Latest+from+The+Conversation+for+7+May+2012+CID_70a28c7a66866af8722489216ffc9cac&utm_source=campaign_monitor&utm_term=Shining+a+new+light+on+bullying+risk
  24. Not all military fathers parented that way Brian. 😀
    Its just that Fathering skills rarely get talked about and I see some pretty poor ones that mothers despair over and kids suffer from and its usually the very rigid authoritarian stuff they default too. Particularly useless and damaging with adolescents
    although psychology still seems particularly keen to “blame” mothers, better though than in the 1960’s I think……
  25. Dr. Brian Monger • I have a perception that for quite a while there has been a greater permissiveness with kids – less discipline?
    You probably know my perception from the comments I make about the little B’s one often encounters at say the supermarket. Or older ones in a uni tute? (not you Mersi)
  26. Karen Price • should bullying become a crime???
    I just read another interesting article on the trial of charles Taylor war crimes trial and how historic it is that crimes against women and girls are included. (one might ask why not before???)
    Anyway given that this is supremely bullying behaviour…. when does the “stuff” we consider bullying become criminal behaviour? Is the intent the same???
    https://theconversation.edu.au/the-charles-taylor-verdict-a-step-forward-for-the-women-of-sierra-leone-6751
  27. Dr. Brian Monger • When it becomes assault – which is more than physical assault.
  28. Karen Price • When is bullying NOT an assault??
  29. Anna Lyubomirsky • Its a psychological assault and cannot be proven easily unfortunately and hence are not criminal actions, but can be put for consideration to HR and legal etc if warranted enough. When it starts to be physically offensive (that is subject to definition too), it can be constituted as assault and then criminal charges laid.
    Mersi Halilovic • Good point Anna. The psychological torment that leads to depression and sadly suicide is what cannot be proven easily and is overlooked. Interesting that many criminals have successfully defended their inhumane and brutal actions against humanity on the basis of insanity, depression and other psychological illnesses…
    Also, the psychological and emotional bullying can affect the victim to the extent that they are not willing to come forward and report the culprit.
  30. Anna Lyubomirsky• True – a lot of bullies do not put anything in writing and are very clever at the pursuit of intimidation and emotional harassment.Dr. Brian Monger • Not an assault? – no threats of violence? You did ask about it being a crime?
  31. Anna Lyubomirsky • Yes if its a clear threat to do violence – having witnesses would be wise…difficult to prove otherwise ( a friend of mine went through this for a long time until she was able to prove it)
  32. Mersi Halilovic • Another part of the problem is that many people, moi including, struggle to admit that they are a victim of bullying because that ultimately means admitting that we are different and do not fit the ‘social norm’ (some of us are proud of not fitting the social norm but so many of us are desperate to belong and to be accepted) and that we were not strong enough to withstand this sort of treatment.
  33. Vanessa – How is this even a question?
  34. Dr. Brian Monger • Well Vanessa, its got a question mark. It is an invitation to think about it and comment.
    You think there is no range of opinions or ideas possible? Or ..what is it you are suggesting?
  35. Dr. Brian Monger • When we seek to protect someone, something, from someone else – how do we stop ourselves becoming the new bully?
    Mersi Halilovic • Good point Vivien, I am sure that individuals or even perhaps society at large may deem such women as intimidating. We still live in a very sexist society and I am sure that Clinton is regarded as powerful,inspiring and admirable whereas strong women who fight for a cause like Hillary are considered intimidating and condescending.
  36. Dr. Brian Monger • I will bet that someone like Hillary Clinton (MorF) is a hard person when they want to get something.
    Reality – the meek will not inherit the earth
  37. Anna Lyubomirsky • Hilary’s leadership must be seen through the eyes of her subordunates, people she works closely with and I am in no doubt that she is wilful, determined, and intimidating to many, but would she as a people’s leader emply deliberate tactics of harassment and psychological pressure? As a world leader and woman of great causes she is regarded as Merci said before and that is vital to get her causes and actions across – we know that. That is just the issue of your personality/behaviour vs your prefessional approach and leadership again. I found myself also being hard and perhaps intimidating to some when you are on hold for hours waiting for a service centre to answer, or you have come to exchange something and they make you write 1000s of docs like you are a security risk, so many things make us display our assertiveness and I guess if Hilary can do it then so can we! Is it a form of bullying in order to get something done?
  38. Mersi Halilovic • Hm Anna, that is a bloody good point…and question! Is assertiveness a form of bullying? I never looked at it that way. The examples that you gave make this a tricky question to answer. I would say, yes it is a form of bullying. But, given your examples where you are emotionally involved ie frustrated and you perceive yourself the victim in that particular scenario, are you defensive or offensive aka a bully?
    I think that we all have a bully in us when it comes to assertiveness and some people do require a bit of extra motivation to get the most simple of tasks done, but there are levels of bullying.
  39. Dr. Brian Monger • Ah – the thinking behind the original question.
    Yet we had some others just say “No” – the expected answer.
  40. Mersi Halilovic • Brian, am I a bad person by tentatively saying ‘yes’ in certain situations, although I choose to redefine the behaviour?
  41. Anna Lyubomirsky • Very much so – there are levels and borderlines to bullying. I personally think that being assertive is not bullying and as we know bullies are insecure and often are unstable and need to dominate. I am assertive and strong (at times but ssometimes get sick of being pushed around) but I am not a bully and will identify one when one appears to display those qualities. It is a fine line and subject to personaly and values. I often help the underdogs at work who cannot organise themselves to produce something – so get them started because it increases their confidence. Those managers/leaders who deliberately isolate and disengage their staff and do not aknowledge their successes are also bullies – its just a different type of humilation, outcasting and intimidation.
  42. Anna Lyubomirsky • Brian – you are a magician by extracting the darkest thoughts from us that stimulate the discussion and ourselves.
    Merci – I do the same … and cannot say NO when I should. is there a pill for that?
  43. Dr. Brian Monger • Mersi – you are certainly not a “bad person”.
    In Asia “Yes” does not necesarily mean “I agree” It could mean – “Yes I hear what you are saying”
  44. Mersi Halilovic • Phew, thanks Brian! 🙂
    I think I am saying ‘yes’ in a way, because my interpretation of bullying is a bit more complex and more encompassing than that of others.
  45. Karen Price • Ideally I do not agree that bullying is acceptable in “certain circumstances”. Assertiveness and forceful defence are entirely different matters. I believe it is the intent rather than the action that needs to be considered. If the intent is to humiliate, belittle, inhibit then that is bullying and not the most functional response. Physically maybe it is akin to intentional torture. If the requirement is that you shoot your enemy before they shoot you or others that is a different intent. (A defensive intent but violent nevertheless) Being assertive and not accepting bad behaviour or intimidation by another with forceful rebuttal is not bullying.
  46. Vivien Gardiner • Something I ponder often: let’s consider the converse. There is a particular Western cultural development which has burgeoned in many European countries since the Second World War (and is now apparent in Australia) which tends to celebrate victimhood. In Australia, we often embrace it as barracking for The Underdog and it now permeates most aspects of social and political discourse. Paradoxically, this necessitates the growth of a “human rights” industry which itself often bullies and harasses, depending on which side of the ledger you stand.
    In the Asian societies I’m familiar with, what we would often describe as bullying is perceived as strength. Paternalism is welcomed. Submission to “bullying” is considered pious, even though to us it might appear as subservience.
    I agree with you Anna: it has much to do with the underlying motivation (often difficult to discern at first), delivery and timing. However, I’ve often found those who disguise their insecurity by being abrasive, rude and uncooperative will soften considerably when responded to with respect and dignity. Sometimes the most collaborative and rewarding relationships can result from a tempestuous beginning. I always find encountering bullies makes me more self-aware, more resilient. It helps develop my own thinking and be conscious of modifying my own impulses when engaging with others.
    Sexual harassment is a whole other can of worms, so to speak.
  47. Dr. Brian Monger • Karen – I am all for the concept of ideal – but I don’t think we are even going to get improvement unless we better understand the concepts better.
    Really, while it is part of the right process, in some circumstances being assertive is not going to fix the problem
  48. Anna Lyubomirsky • Very interesting comments Vivien. Self-awareness and self-resilience are
    definitely sharpened when dealing with a bully but what about autocratic
    management – one that is so old fashioned, by delegation only, no
    nurturing or engagement, one that never celebrates successes but only picks
    on errors and hurdles and one that has to be one way – theirs. Is that a
    form of bullying? Its reverting back to our discussion on leadership… As
    you say Vivien some societies do not tolerate weak behaviour and lack of
    assertiveness and encourage what we would sometimes call aggressive
    professional behaviour and lack of tolerance – eg. Japan.
  49. Mersi Halilovic • Karen, what you are saying makes sense in terms of the intent of assertive and forceful behaviour. However, bullying can still occur even if the intent wasn’t there. If you are forceful in your communication and offend or upset people, that is bullying. It doesn’t matter what the intent was.
  50. Karen Price • Hmm then we are at the mercy of other peoples perceptions Mersi? I do not entirely agree with that. If an assertive woman is called bullying (but not often an asserive man as that is gender appropriate) do we fine her and call her in for remediation. I agree with Vivienne that there is an interpersonal skilled approach required. Human beings are constantly misunderstanding and misunderstood with no evil intent necessarily. Conflict resolution and good policy and procedure in the workplace help provide a lighted path who dont possess Good EQ themselves.
    Being assertive doesnt always fix the problem Brain thats why I mentioned carrying a gun.
  51. Vivien Gardiner • Many moons ago, when I was an Operating Room nurse, I used to have surgeons screaming and shouting and throwing instruments at me. I would sometimes observe – with amazement – a senior and experienced nurse approach, look the surgeon in the eye (nothing like a face-mask to intensify the death stare, lol) and say in a calm but firm (aka assertive) tone something along the lines of: “When you have finished throwing your tantrum Doctor, and decide to behave like an adult, we will be able to proceed with the surgery in the best interests of the patient and all involved in their care”. We underlings would of course be in awe of person who had stood up to the bullying, so when the surgeon tried to raise hell in admin, he would find himself without any support.
    Those who stand up to bullies (without resorting to bullying themselves) win much political support and many friends.
    Of course, the “career line” vs “staff” aspect is a mitigating factor. Karen, your senior colleagues might have had to deal with arrogance and pomposity in the hospitals quite differently.
  52. Karen Price • Yes Vivienne power does corrupt some. There are shining examples of leaders who did not succumb due to robust psychological strength and an integrated adult personality. These are the leaders I remember fondly. Your senior nurse was spot on. If I had done speciality training I would have kept my mouth shut more which I am not good at by the way. There were surgeons I remember who threw instruments and were pathetically immature. I remember even as an intern taking him on with humour at his attempt to intimidate me and he never attacked me again. Alas it was not so good for my very timid registrar. Awful stuff. Worse were orthopedic surgeons some of whom back then were misogynistic and that was actually more difficult as the discrimination was more subtle. I did complain nevertheless to the admin about that but I didnt have to worry about getting a job in that speciality training program. My friend who wanted to do Paediatrics got sick of being asked what school she went to and what her parents did and gave up. More difficult than outright aggression is the passive and behind the scenes undermining which becomes impossible to confront and at the time seems petty, but overall is a more insididious form of bullying which women/girls particularly seem to excel at, sadly. Yes just said something gender biased.
  53. Dr. Brian Monger • Vivien – At Cabrini they don’t put up with much of that – they have a waiting list of surgeons to fill any gaps.
    Still not perfect though
    Vivien – you are so right. There are so many righteous people who do not
    tolerate other people’s opinions or views, and they use these tactics that
    you would think were passed onto them through 10 commandments by Moses and
    we all have to abide, agree etc. I deal with such people all the time and I
    am starting to crumble because it takes so much resilience and energy to
    deal with them, that I am beginning to think (may be because I am sick with
    flu) that self-preservation is more important. People in power use the
    empowerment in the wrong way and sometimes it’s hard to keep fighting it
  54. Mersi Halilovic • Karen,
    I think we always are at the mercy of other people’s perception, that is the reality which makes everything quite complicated.
  55. Dr. Brian Monger • And what is perceived by one as reasonable and assertive behaviour can be perceived by others as too much – and being a bit bullying.
  56. Dr. Brian Monger • Perfect communication is not possible – even good communication is hard
  57. Dr. Brian Monger • As per the message of the “Should women behave..” discussion. The key to dealing with bullying is to have a set of good behavioural tools that you can work with.
    And – recognising that everything is situation/context specific – and all behaviour is on a continuum.
    Bullying is not one single activity.
  58. Dr. Brian Monger • In novels and film we seen to appreciate the “morally abiguous” characters – but we cut little such slack in the real world.
    Be slow to find fault and quicker to accept.
    We need to understand things more – and in greater depth before we take a hardline stance on things I think
  59. Karen Price • Well said Brian. a toelrant understanding world.
  60. Mersi Halilovic • Agree with Karen, well said Brian!
    “Be slow to find fault and quicker to accept”- I really like this.
  61. Vivien Gardiner • The morally ambiguous character was a fashionable element of post-structuralism, but perhaps less so these days? Any theories anyone?
    IMHO, too much emphasis on tolerance and understanding creates a space for the rise of the intolerant and unjust. We must be vigilant about upholding our values and ethics lest they morph into something more sinister. It was social pacifism in post-WW1 Germany which allowed Nazism to flourish, remember?
  62. Dr. Brian Monger • Vivien, good thoughts (vigilant about upholding our values and ethics) – but Germany post WWI had a lot of social and political violence- Sparticists; Frei Corps Beer Hall Putsch
    1930 – Communists V Nazis and others
    Modern morally ambiguous antiheros that come to mind – Jack Sparrow; Batman; The Crow. Seth Bullock and Al Swearengen (Deadwood) Cromwell (Bring up the Dead) Tony Soprano; The Crow
  63. Dr. Brian Monger • At one time I used to punctuate lecxtures with pics of polar bears. Everyone kept watching (not playing with their phones) in case they missed one..
    Someone said they liked the bears and I said I had all the polar bear porn – didn’t go down well.
    Like the time I showed a class the whip I bought in Argentina. Told them it was a motivational tool.
  64. Dr. Brian Monger • Laura Croft; Catherine the Great; the crazy homocidal woman in the Luther TV series 9I like her) come immediately to mind.
  65. Anna Lyubomirsky • Marie-Antoinette, Joan of Arc, Marie Currie, Golda Meyer, Indira Ghandi,
    Katherine Hepburn, George Sands, Camile Claudel ….
  66. Mersi Halilovic • My list includes: Marie-Antoinette (my obsession…probably my past life 😛 ), Catherine Medici, Joan of Arc, Ida Dalser, ‘Samantha Jones’, Boutica (unsure of proper spelling)
  67. Charbel Yamouni • No, bullying is never justified; it not only belittles a resource it creates a toxic environment. Positive culture must be endorsed and led by the organisations executives ensuring bullying and harassment will not be tolerated.
    I believe bullying or harassment will drive the project to be unsuccessful or alternatively when handed over to operations (BAU) it creates major issues in realising the projects benefits.
    Bullying can possibly lead to depression which has its own implications; people need to be accountable for other people’s happiness in ensuring bullying is non-existent!
  68. Dr. Brian Monger • No doubts at all Charbel? No shades of grey suggest themselves? Did you read any of the previous inputs?
    I know that there is a lot of social chatter here so let me put in some earlier thoughts:
    When we seek to protect someone, something, from someone else – how do we stop ourselves becoming the new bully?
    There are shades of grey in this issue though. Kids bullying their parents into getting them a favourite toy? Teenage girls bullying their mums to let them do things that will help them ‘fit in’ with their friends – getting a piercing, going out late at night, getting their hair dyed? An elderly boss bullying his junior staff into meeting particular performance targets… the bullying behaviour manifesting in a carrot-and-stick approach.
    how about countries trying to bully say Iran to stop their nuc. program?
    Everything turns on situation and context I find.
  69. Dr. Brian Monger • Pushing people to help them realize their full potential isn’t always enjoyed by the pushed, (which in some cases can be described as bullying)
  70. George Stevenson • What do you do when an employee neglects elemnts of their job or is excessively slow and unproductive. If you try the softly softly approach and it does not work you have 2 choices; be more agrressive or rehire. Our employment rules and those of some of our Asian neighbours dont look favourably on firing without excessive counseling. Is taking an aggressive stance bullying?
    We critiscise our educators and parents for raising our kids wrapped up in cotton wool, are we then responsible for making them more susceptible to bullies?
  71. Vivien Gardiner • Good input George. I also wonder at times if our culture of “victimhood” is massaged too frequently. I have no experience of employing in Asia, but here our current workplace laws require disproportionate support for unproductive and problematic staff who cry “bully” whenever the topic is broached. Troublemakers are quick to exploit this and can create havoc in a workplace.
    Having said that, I think one can be firm without being aggressive. If the situation becomes untenable then the poisoned fruit must be jettisoned for the health of the whole, even if that is a disaster for that individual apple.
    Agreed, our kids need to learn strategies for coping with unpleasant individuals and situations.
  72. Dr. Brian Monger • Good comments Vivien.
    Bullies thrive when there is no effective ways to deal with them.
    I used to be fond of RUNM – rolled up newspaper model 🙂
  73. Dr. Brian Monger • Mind you RUNM only useful in person to person situations – Being bullied by an institution – like a university or govt dept needs other methods.
    Vivien Gardiner • I have great respect for the RUNM, having been at the receiving end often when my father was cross 🙂 Institutions are another matter indeed, but there are always like minds around. I’s just a matter of locating them and finding safety in numbers.
  74. Dr. Brian Monger • Only once did I hit one of my kids. I saw that as a failure for me. Only rarely have I ever had to use force in any situation. But most folk knew it was one of my options.
    The best strategy is to win without having to actually implement force. But the threat is also a form of bullying.
  75. Mersi Halilovic • I can see where George is coming from, which is why I said previously that perhaps bullying is sometimes justified…I think…I know that a number of us, expressed some politically incorrect opinions.
    I too fear that we are creating a culture of out of control, precious and cocooned children. You said that we “critiscise our educators and parents for raising our kids wrapped up in cotton wool, are we then responsible for making them more susceptible to bullies?”…there is a study that show that it is these overly protected and precious kids that become the bullies because the belief that they are precious, better and can do no wrong is instilled in them from very early on. I think that these same kids are the one who do bugger all at work and a lot of time get away with it, because we live in a society that frowns upon pretty much every disciplinary action and everything becomes discriminatory
  76. Dr. Brian Monger • Good thoughts Mersi.
    Just imagine a teacher not handling their class as if they were not precious and wrapped in cotton wool? 🙂 LOL!
  77. Mersi Halilovic • I was brought up with respect for authorities, including teachers and the police. I would never ever EVER dare speak to teachers and police the way I have seen young adults and school children speak. In countries where the children have stricter upbringing and are taught the meaning of respect you do not hear of suicidal and depressed teachers who are forced to quit their jobs because they cannot handle the abuse.
  78. Anna Lyubomirsky • Hi George,
    may be the emplyee in question needs more training, one on one support and skill management, developmental strategy, job rotation, Is there a reason for his/her lack of productivity? A soft approach may not be appropriate but a cut-throat one of being aggressive or get rid of them may not be that good for morale, the fact that the organisation has invested time, effort and resources for recruiting that person and more insight in needed as to why elements of their job are being neglected – lack of ability, skill, overload of work…I do not believe in wrapping anyone in cotton wool but black and white solutions are old school management I think…
  79. Dr. Brian Monger • Bullies succeed because they can.
    “Victims” need “effective” mechanisms to deal with it.
  80. Dr. Brian Monger • Mersi – I agree.
    It is a matter of civic and social respect.
    I think there would be little need to have to think about paying teachers more if the job was not so difficult.
    Mind you, I think teachers were at the forefront of promoting “accepting behaviour”.

Favourite Words of Wisdom – November 2012

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Julianne Vaughn, MBA • Don’t resent the game – learn the rules … and then play your best.

 

Ed Foley • “Let It Be” – – McCartney

 

Ed Foley • “Be the change you wish to see in the world” – – Gandhi

 

Ed Foley • There will always be a faster gun

 

Ed Foley • Live for today, there may never be a tomorrow

 

Ed Foley • Dr. Monger, thank you for prompting me to think about it…you have me on a roll. One more for tonight that has really stayed with me ever since I heard the words (variation on “if at first you don’t succeed”):

“You can get it if you really want

You can get it if you really want

You can get it if you really want

But you must try, try and try

Try and try – you’ll succeed at last”

– Jimmy Cliff

 

Ipshita Mazumdar • Value every moment of the present …. as it is the only window that shows what you have been through in the past and what you are in for in the future 🙂 So live every moment like there is no tomorrow !

 

Dr. Brian Monger • Good thought Ipshita. I also do what I do, for tomorrow – not for me so much but for others

 

Ipshita Mazumdar • Thank you Dr. Monger, for bringing out this thought from my mind. A single good deed done for others, comes back to us manifold times …

 

Phil Frederix • Carpe Diem.

 

Thomas Meeh • We can predict everything, except the future.

 

Amy Lunov • Less is more.

 

rémy rodriguez • Brian I like these two quotations which guides me a lot:

“This is not looking at the light that we become luminous, but by plunging into obscurity. But this work is often unpleasant thus unpopular “(Carl Gustave Jung)

“we never possess really things. We are only holding them one moment. If we are incapable to let them go, it is them who possess us ” (Antony de Mello)

 

Damian Corbet • Follow your intuition. You may not succeed in your endeavours but at least, by trying, you’ll never have to ask yourself, “what if?”

 

Jane Canning • The Moving Finger writes; and, having writ,

Moves on: nor all thy Piety nor Wit

Shall lure it back to cancel half a Line,

Nor all thy Tears wash out a Word of it.

Omar Khayyam (fate)

 

Stefan Weyers • This too will pass

John Mark Williams • Follow your heart.

 

Dr. Brian Monger • Never put off until tomorrow what you can totally dispose of today.

 

Dr. Brian Monger • To thy own self be true

 

Oscar De La Peña • Fire with enthusiasm or you will be fired with enthusiasm!!! V.Lombardi.

Nobody left behind…USMC code of honor.

 

Naela Blosh • Genius is the ability to renew one’s emotions in daily experience. – Paul Cezanne

 

Dr. Brian Monger • A stich in time – saves nine

 

Dr. Brian Monger • Make something from nothing – one of the 36 Strategies of Asia. – One of my favourites. Any fool can spend a lot of money

 

Farzaana Garib • Never let success get to your head.

Never let failure get to your heart

 

Mark Bischak • It is better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to open one’s mouth and remove all doubt.

 

Mark Bischak • Don’t put the key to your happiness in someone else’s pocket – keep it in your own.

 

Mark Bischak • Blessed are those that can give without remembering and receive without forgetting.

 

Mark Bischak • You know you’ve got the greatest friends when the only time they make you cry is when you’re laughing too hard, or they gently touch your heart.

 

Richard Gould • Don’t sit on fences (You get shot from both sides)

 

Sarah Clark • The key to failure is trying to please everyone

 

Anupama Thakur • In the end, it’s not going to matter how many breaths you took, but how many moments took your breath away

 

Ed Foley • “Don’t follow leaders, watch the parking meters” – Dylan

 

Ed Foley • The darkest hour is right before the dawn.

 

Crystal Kay • NEVER stop learning

 

Dr. Brian Monger • Albert Einstein: “I fear the day when the technology overlaps with our humanity. The world will only have a generation of idiots.”

 

Dr. Brian Monger • More than one path to reach a destination – Meng Bo Yuan

 

Jane Canning • In every gain there is a loss; in every loss, a gain.

 

TJ Bren • Treat self, others and the Earth with the kind of tender care that ensures well-being. Everything else is detail to customize for your comfort.

 

Dr. Brian Monger • Life is like a game of cards. The hand that is dealt you represents determinism; the way you play it is free will.” – Jawaharal Nehru

 

rémy rodriguez •

The last two stanzas of a song of ” Atahualpa Yupanqui ” Preguntitas sobre Dios:

“Hay un asunto en la tierra

Mas importante que Dios.

Y es que nadie escupa sangre

Para que otro viva mejor.

Que Dios vela por los pobres ?

Tal vez si, y tal vez no .

Pero es seguro que almuerza

En la mesa del patron. »

 

“There is one subject on earth

More important than God.

That nobody spits the blood

So that the others live better.

Does God stay up the poor people?

Maybe that yes, maybe that not.

But it is sure that he lunches

At the table of the boss.”

The penultimate stanza speaks about the disappointment on the human nature and its incapacity to suffer for the others.

The last stanza was treated repeatedly by other poets anti-authority as Sartre or even Pascal, but as the subject is taboo it’s little approached by the men of property.

Atahualpa led a fight for his people by wondering all his life, aout the contradictions between the acts of gringos and what their God said to them that was good or bad.

 

Dr. Brian Monger • “Learn from the mistakes of others; you can’t possibly live long enough to make them all yourself”

 

Duane Sharrock • “Nothing fails like success. In other words, when a challenge in life is met by a response that is equal to it, you have success. But when the challenge moves to a higher level, the old, once successful response no longer works–it fails; thus, nothing fails like success.” –historian Arnold Toynbee

 

Duane Sharrock • “Sometimes, when you win, you lose.” This applies in relationships, especially for conversations. I had first heard these words in a Robin Williams movie. Now, it reverberates as I read the book Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes are High.

 

Haytham Al-Nasairi • Make sure your words are nice and sweet, you never know from time to time which one you have to eat….

 

Sarah Clark • Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass.. It’s about learning how to dance in the rain.

 

Michael Pinto • The definition of Insanity (I have this framed sitting on my desk so I look at it…very often): Doing the same thing over and over again, expecting a different result – Albert Einstein

 

Don’t be afraid to make new mistakes everyday. Try not to repeat the same ones twice.

 

Thomas Yonker • This too shall pass.

 

Eswari Kalugasalam • There is a higher court than courts of justice and that is the court of conscience. It supercedes all other courts – Mahatma Gandhi

 

John Urwin • Don’t try…just do. Yoda.

and

Show me your friends, and I’ll show you your destiny.

 

Vlad Kunko • “A good day starts with a good breakfast.” — Winnie-the-Pooh

 

Ed Han • In whatever you do, make it about the people, not the work. Do the people part right and the work will follow.

 

Lynn GentryWood • Never do something permanently stupid just because you are temporarily upset.

 

rémy rodriguez • “La sagesse commence où finit la crainte de Dieu. Il n’est pas un progrès de la pensée qui n’ait paru d’abord attentatoire, impie.”

” The wisdom begins where finishes the fear of God. It is not a progress of the thought which seemed at first attentatoire, godless. ” (André Gide / 1869-1951 / Newspaper 1889-1939 / January 15th, 1929)

“Tout le problème de ce monde, c’est que les idiots et les fanatiques sont toujours si sûrs d’eux, tandis que les sages sont tellement pleins de doutes.”

“All the problem of this world, it is because the idiots and the fanatics are always so sure of them, whereas the wise men are so full of doubts”

(Bertrand Russell / 1872-1970)

 

Jane Canning • Been there, done that, and got the t-shirt Lynn. Agreed.

 

Arabi Mahbub • Wisdom of the all wisdom is that the Life, of the Human.

 

Jim Walters, D.V.M. • How much easier it is to be critical than to be correct. – Benjamin Disraeli

It’s not what you look at that matters, it’s what you see.- Henry David Threau

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